Ignorance is bliss in many ways. If you don’t know of the dangers and the violence that takes place in this world, it’s easy to be happy and content living in it. It’s easy to turn a blind eye to that which is happening to and around us. But the moment you become aware of the darkness existing in our world, the moment someone you love is assaulted, regardless to whether it was physically or mentally; the world becomes a much scarier place to live in.
Feeling lost when someone close to you is assaulted; is normal. After all, though you might be desperate to help them, unless you do so delicately and with utmost care, you might end up doing more harm than good. If someone you know has been assaulted, and confides in you; here are a few things you can do to help them in their journey to recovery.
Being there for them
Remember, they confided in you because they trust you. You need to understand how hard that decision to trust you and talk to you would have been to them. Though you might feel like you are not doing much, just being there for them in their difficult period and actually listening to them can help them a great deal; and even help them heal. It’s possible that they might not have spoken to anyone else about this before. Remind them that this was in no way their fault. And it’s vital that you are consistent in “being there” for them.
Help them feel safer
Most assault victims feel unsafe and exposed, and are unable to function or go about living their daily lives. This can make them feel trapped and suffocated. If they are unable to be in the public alone, walk or travel along with them. Install motion sensor or remote control lights for their home; and check it out for them once you walk them home. Work out together or join a gym together to help them “feel stronger”. If it helps, enroll together for Jiu Jitsu lessons or other defense lessons available. The aim is to make them feel safe. If you are interested about mixed martial arts classes you can visit this site http://transcendencemma.com/mixed-martial-arts-classes//
Taking action and feeling in control
Sometimes, assault victims don’t feel safe as long as those responsible are roaming around freely. This means no amount of jiu jitsu classes in Singapore are going to help them feel strong, brave and safe. Gently talk to them about reporting the incident to the police. If the assault happened recently, try to gather information and evidence, in case they decide to press charges in the future. Remember, it’s important that you *don’t’ push them to do anything they don’t want to do*. Even if it’s for their own good.
Healing in numbers
If your friend is willing to try, look for support groups and therapists who can help your friend to let out their anger, pain and fear. If they are afraid to do so alone, offer to go along with them, and sit through it with them. Sometimes, it’s easier to share your burden when you have a support system. As this is emotionally taxing to you as well, talking to a therapist together can help both of you.
Remember to take care of yourself too. Without self-care, you will not be able to give your loved one the care and attention that they need.